Dear One Direction

I recently discovered your song “Little things” and all that I can say is WOW.  I’ve probably listened to it a million times and I just don’t get tired of it.  It’s totally cheesy…completely corny…but it appeals to the hopeless romantic that I am deep inside. There is a part of me that becomes complete mush at the thought of a guy serenading a girl…writing her a song or a poem or just a simple, but beautiful and honest love letter. The leaving of a single hand-picked wild flower or the gentle seemingly thoughtless touch in passing.

I mostly blame the parentals for this hopelessly romantic streak I have.  I am very blessed to have parents that after 36 years of marriage are still in love, still hold hands, still kiss and send loving and sickeningly sweet messages to each other and what I realised most last week…are completely miserable without each other. I think they are singlehandedly responsible for my belief that true love exist, good men are still alive, couples should always support each other, trust each other completely (definitely a vital building block), men should be chivalrous, women should behave like ladies and that one simple gesture can be filled with more love than any amount of words could ever explain.

So bear with me as I share with my readers the sickeningly sweet words of this song and share a part of my hopelessly romantic heart:

Your hand fits in mine
Like it’s made just for me
But bear this in mind
It was meant to be
And I’m joining up the dots with the freckles on your cheeks
And it all makes sense to me

I know you’ve never loved
The crinkles by your eyes
When you smile
You’ve never loved
Your stomach or your thighs,
The dimples in your back at the bottom of your spine
But I’ll love them endlessly

I won’t let these little things slip out of my mouth
But if I do
It’s you
Oh, it’s you they add up to
I’m in love with you
And all these little things

You can’t go to bed without a cup of tea
And maybe that’s the reason that you talk in your sleep
And all those conversations are the secrets that I keep
Though it makes no sense to me

I know you’ve never loved
The sound of your voice on tape
You never want
To know how much you weigh
You still love to squeeze into your jeans
But you’re perfect to me

I won’t let these little things slip out of my mouth
But if it’s true
It’s you,
It’s you they add up to
I’m in love with you
And all these little things

You’ll never love yourself half as much as I love you
You’ll never treat yourself right, darling, but I want you to.
If I let you know I’m here for you
Maybe you’ll love yourself like I love you, oh.

And I’ve just let these little things slip out of my mouth
‘Cause it’s you,
Oh, it’s you,
It’s you they add up to
And I’m in love with you
And all these little things

I won’t let these little things slip out of my mouth
But if it’s true
It’s you,
It’s you they add up to
I’m in love with you
And all your little things

The Hopeless Romantic


My dearest Parental Unit

Today marks the 35th celebration of the day that you got married. 35 YEARS!!! I consider this to be an exceptional feat in the times we live in.  Our world is filled with broken families who couldn’t survive the challenges that being married to one person for the rest of your life brings, and yet here you stand, 35 years later, still in love, still discovering each other, still enjoying each other and still working towards making your union even more perfect.

I look around at the families of friends, colleagues and family and I realise that I am in an a very blessed position.  Very few of the people I know were able to dodge the bullet of a broken home.  Not only are my parents still married, but they are happily married, which is certainly something to celebrate.

Thank you so much for the beautiful example that you have set for my brother and I.  Thank you for putting me in a position where I can believe in a fairy tale marriage and know that I too can have that.  Thank you for loving each other so much that you faced whatever hard times there might have been and grew into the future together.  I look at the two of you and I smile.  How rare is it that 35 years on you are still holding hands when you walk, delivering little kisses randomly, become completely miserable when you are away from each other for longer than a day and consider each other your best friend.

So here’s a toast to the two of you.  Congratulations on accomplishing something this amazing, and may there be many, many many more of these.  Happy 35th anniversary.

Your loving and devoted daughter

A celebration

CuteToo cute…caught them on camera while Daddy letter was being all soppy with Mommy letters:)

FavouriteOne of my favourites! I took this picture when we were at the Victory Falls.  It was just so adorable, the two of them walking side by side under the umbrella on this little path, completely unaware of the rest of the world

Dear Angel and Neels

yay!!!! And then there was ONE 🙂 Congratulations guys! Finally finally the big day of #AnGlugWedding arrived. 24 July 2010 will forever be a fond memory in my life.  The that two of my friends, who just happen to be two of the most incredible people i know, Angel and Neels, finally got married:)

What a love story it has been.  Meeting ‘online’ and carefully plotting and building until an absolutely beautiful relationship emerged.  A relationship in which they accepted each other with the Knucklehead (who looked ridiculously handsome at the wedding just so by the way) and whatever they had in their pasts.  A relationship where love ruled and will forever rule.  A relationship that makes me smile every time i think about it.  You guys are so ridiculously perfect for each other:)

Congratulations my friends, I am so incredibly happy for you.  Angel, you looked absolutely gorgeous!! The decor was spectacular and everything was just so naturally you that i couldn’t help but smile every time i noticed something.  Glug, you looked so very handsome! and your smile knew no bounds.  I wish you guys only love and happiness and many blessings and a life together filled with beautiful memories that’ll last forever.

The cupcakes were yummy….as always:) And the photo booth that you guys rented for the night was definitely a hit.  I’m not sure in how many pictures i appear in total…..lets just say…erm… A LOT! but it was fun and the whole idea of putting copies of all of those pics along with little messages in a book for you guys was absolutely brilliant!

Finally got to meet Acidicice and BecauseI in person:)  Don Packett was the MC for the evening and he kept us all entertained:) The place was filled with twitter and blogger people and Don at some point jokingly said that if the place were to implode for whatever reason the twitter world would be A LOT quieter.  Thanks a LOT to my date, Claude, for being a sport and helping me out when i was in a bit of a pinch…muchly appreciated honey:)  And of course i sat at the absolute BEST table with Phillygirl, Doodles and Louisa….thanks girls…always a pleasure!!!

Can’t wait for you guys to come back and I can’t wait to see all the pictures Jenty took at your wedding.  Enjoy the honeymoon!!!! *wink wink*

So much love


P.S.  Attached are some of my favourite pics from the evening from my camera(the hair shot is courtesy of Wenchy) and the photo booth…..enjoy:) They include pics of us and of the cupcake, the centre piece on the table and of me and the gorgeous bride!

Dear future prince charming

I hope this letter finds you well and also well on your way to me *nudge nudge wink wink*. It’s just a little bit of guideline for that point in time when you finally do pitch up. I’m by no means perfect and like everybody else around me i have my good points, my strengths, my weaknesses and my issues. But I’d like to believe that I’m generally a good and caring person. Here are a couple things i’d like you to remember and take into consideration:

1. I’m a very affectionate person…I hope this won’t be a problem (PDA and stuff)
2. Dancing is my happy place:) I don’t expect you to love dancing, but it would help:)
3. I hate peas! Don’t try to make me eat them, don’t chew them in my ear so i can hear them
4. One of my best friends happen to be a boy person and i love him very much. Accept this
and deal with it…my friendship with him is not up for discussion.
5. I have an irrational fear of spiders. Please note….irrational. Don’t try and convince me that
they can’t hurt me, or that I weigh more than them, or that i’m like a million times bigger
than them…also, laughing at me when i freak out doesn’t help. Just be my knight in
shining armor….kill it, give me a hug and a kiss and move on.
6. Being a very affectionate person means i’m also affectionate with my friends, and i tend to
have little nicknames for everyone….extreme jealousy is better left at the door….slight, none
overbearing jealousy that you can fully control is sweet tho
7. I don’t believe in the silent treatment…issues need to be dealt with as and when they arise
8. I cry when i get really really angry…pls don’t think i’m trying to break down your defences
or black mail you when this happens.
9. Looks can be deceiving….i love camping…like serious pitch a tent and sleeping bag type stuff
10. My studies are important to me…not more important than you, but i am passionate about
what i do, and i’d appreciate it if you respected that.
11. I’m very close to my parents and my brother, and generally family means the world to me
12. My faith is an important part of who I am and i’m not willing to compromise it
13. I love cuddling and snuggling…i hope this is acceptable
14. Music forms an important part of my day to day life. It has a tremendous effect on my mood
and my day to day life. Important people and things in my life seem to be marked by songs
rather than anything else.
15. My heart is well guarded, and initially you might have trouble getting in……the walls around
it is quite high, but when i do fall in love i do so unconditionally and passionately.

My intention is not to scare you away or make you think twice, but the way i see it…..if you’re going to be part of my life there are certain things I might as well let you know before hand. If you can’t see yourself coping with them, then maybe you’re not my Prince Charming after all.

I can’t wait to meet you:)


Dear Blue eyes

I have so many emotions and thoughts running around in my head that I have no idea how to put them down on paper, much less blurt them out in a conversation. I realise that I’m famous for my extreme and incurable case of Foot in Mouth disease, but there are times when even I struggle to grasp words, any words to express what’s going on in my little world.

We’ve been friends for a very long time the two of us. I was there when your whole world collapsed, I was there during the period that you rebuilt it…doing more than my fair share to help. I saw you meet the love of your life, and I made an effort to get to know her and to be her friend, initially for your sake, but later, for hers. She’s an amazing lady….full of love and charm and although she is in many ways the exact opposite of me, we get along like a house on fire. The only thing to ever mar our friendship was…..well…you. Even though she knows she has nothing to fear, she can’t help but feel insecure about our friendship. So we decided to bridge the gap for her…..we stopped sharing long standing private jokes, we ensured that we never spent time alone, always including her in everything…and it worked. Until now.

The other night you phoned me at about 9. Please could you come for coffee. I was under the impression that she would be joining us, and being the little night owl that I am, I didn’t mind. Great was my surprise when you showed up on your own. I was really glad to see you, but the first thing that jumped out of my mouth the second you got out of the car was:”Where is she??” You became slightly evasive and told me that she went on holiday with her folks…..leaving you behind for a week. I’ve never been good at keeping my mouth shut, so I just jumped right in and wanted to know why on earth she would go on holiday without you, considering that it would have been completely possible for you to join her….You didn’t have an answer.

It’s no secret between us that there was a stage, a couple of months before you got engaged, that you were in love with me…and passionately so. I didn’t feel the same, and after long talks you accepted it, you even managed to talk to you wife to be about it, telling her about your silliness and the realisation that it wasn’t real. I was relieved and happy that it was all out in the open, crisis averted.

I’ll be honest….I’m worried, really worried. The fact that you came to see me alone, hardly answered any of my questions about the two of you, and then proceeded to tell me that you didn’t tell her that you were coming to see me and would appreciate it if I didn’t tell her either……I’m actually feeling kind of sick with worry. You never seem to smile any more, yet when the two of you are together you act as if everything is just peachy, and maybe it is, I’m just not convinced.

I’ve given you an ultimatum. Tell her you came to visit me while she was away or I will. Maybe i’m making a mountain from a molehill. But considering the current situation, and the history, I don’t want anybody pointing fingers at me saying that I was the cause of a failed marriage. I didn’t do anything wrong, I know that much….but I need you to tell her that you were at my house…even if it’s only for the sake of my sanity.

You’re like my brother, and I would do almost anything to see you happy and excited about life. But I refuse to be part of something that makes me feel dirty, even though i didn’t do anything wrong. Am I just being paranoid? Do I have reason to be worried? Why does everything always have to be so complicated…*sigh*



Dear Jack

Even though we’ve made peace with the way things are some time ago, I’ve held off writing this letter. Simply because writing this needs courage and a lot of thought and soul seeking i guess. So, I’m tired enough to be brave enough to write it, I’m at peace with our friendship, and I’ve had plenty of time to think of what exactly it is that i would like to say to you in this here letter…….so here goes nothing;)

The romance started off in a little bit of a whirlwind/fairy tale sort of way. You managed to hijack my heart in a matter of minutes, and I know that you gave yours to me easily. But things just weren’t meant to be. And the past reared it’s awful head, rocking us back to the reality that is everyday life. For now it just won’t work.

We decided to end the “insert whatever you would like to call it here”. It was by mutual consent and very difficult, but probably the best decision we could have made….considering the circumstances. The strange thing is that you’ve become one of my best friends. I speak to you on a daily basis. You’re still a safe person to talk to when I’m down or when i have a crisis. You still have the amazing ability to turn my sadness into laughter and to brighten my day with a smile.

Initially this reaction was due to the fact that i was still very much in love with you. I’ll admit to that. I knew that you were still crazy about me….and the fact that you confessed this to me on several occasions after we decided to call it quits, did not exactly make it easy to let go.

But amazingly enough I’m finally over this. I’m over you. I’ve made a decision and I spent some much needed time focusing my life and my thoughts. I feel free and rejuvenated:) Our silly little love game has turned into a beautiful friendship. You are still a very important part of my life, but you are the love of my life no longer.

You will always hold a little piece of my heart. I’d be a liar if i denied that. But you are my friend, not my lover. I will always be here for you if you need me…but i think you know that already:)

I’m glad I’ve finally managed to muster up the courage to write this letter. In a way it is setting free the last strands of in loveness that has tried to hold my heart captive. I hope that you’ll have the courage to confront your demons and look away from the past. Your history doesn’t define who you are, it’s only the road you’ve taken to discover yourself. You are an amazing person, and i hope that you will always remember that.


Your Ruby