Sometimes I wonder how many of us stop to think about what we say/tweet/blog. I wonder if some people even realise just how negative, whiney and full of complaints they have become.
I’m (mostly) a very positive person. And even though my job often makes me cynical with regards to trusting people and just how screwed up the justice system is everywhere, I tend to be the person who sees silver linings, generally sounds annoyingly chirpy and also the one who gets stupidly happy at the tiniest things. Don’t get me wrong…some days I too feel down in the dumps, some days I complain and some days I whine (especially when I’m sick…I’m completely miserable and pitiful when i’m sick) but this is not an everyday occurrence. And everyone is entitled to complain or a whine or to a negative day from time to time.
But I’ve noticed that more and more people are constantly negative, constantly complaining, constantly whining and constantly a pain in my ass. Every single word that flows out of their mouths/fingers laced with the toxin more commonly known as negativity. If you let it run your life for too long you stop realising that you’re being negative, you fail to recognize the amazing things in your life and you spread negativity to the people around you. You become an increasingly horrible person to be around.
There are few things that annoy me as much as someone who has amazing people in abundance, amazing opportunities and just honestly so many blessing rained on them only for them to not once be grateful, not once say anything positive or happy…just negative negative negative! The sad part is that the external parties are not the only ones to notice. These amazing people who you have in your life…they notice it too. They feel that you don’t value them and that you take them for granted, because if you’re this miserable all the time, surely the people who surround you must feel that it is somehow their fault? And not only that..spending too much time with a negative person is emotionally draining, exhausting and quite frankly unpleasant and because it is so toxic, some of these people will, in time, also become negative. A negative person is also often extremely self-centered. Everything is a crisis, everything is horrible and in everything they ARE the victim, not because they’re actually the victim, but because they choose to act like the victim. There are days when I feel like saying “Get your head out of your ass, it’s not a hat” (to quote Pitch Perfect). I mean if your head is up there to begin with, I suppose it makes sense that you have such a crappy outlook on life.
After putting up with a lot of the negativity from a lot of people over time I have finally come to the conclusion that I need to do what makes me happy. I need to, at least to an extent, distance myself from the negative people in my life. Guys, I love you dearly, but realise for once that life is not that bad. Make a point of noticing at least one good thing a day, because I can guarantee you that your life does not suck, you just choose to see it that way.
Filed under: Big City, Blogging | Tags: Bayswater, cars, Limited Edition, Love, Mini, Nelson Mandela Square
Everyone who knows me KNOWS that ever since getting my MINI last year I have been MINI-crazy. I absolutely adore my car.
On Friday night I was super excited to be attending the launch of the new Limited Edition Bayswater. I had no idea what to expect, but they wowed us with a 3D Projection in Nelson Mandela Square. I think they stressed a little bit as Jozi decided to grace us with an epic rainstorm shortly before the event was due to start, but the rain finally cleared and the program could go ahead. For those of you who didn’t get to see it…..there is a YouTube video here
And the cars were BEAUTIFUL! I’m not going to go into the technical details here…we ALL know it’s not my strong point but you can find all the details on their website:) I will however show you some pictures to tease
All in all I think everyone had a really fun time and I got to meet some interesting new people, which, at the end of the day, is my favourite part of any event I get to attend…well that and the wine:)
Thank you so much for the goodie bag I received today:) I just said earlier this week that I don’t have a laptop bag for the little HP Folio I won the other day and then today you guys pitched up at my client’s offices with not ONLY a laptop bag but also some free Vitaminwater goodies…my co-workers were also thankful for these:P The gifts are very much appreciated:)
Filed under: Big City, Celebrations, Friends, Life | Tags: Birthday, Celebrations, The Big Three Oh
I would just like to pop you a quick note to say thank you for hosting my party on Saturday:) Throughout the process I was assisted by competent and friendly individuals (specifically Riaan and Bruce) and their advice and help was highly appreciated.
The food, as always was divine and my only complaint involves one of your staff members breaking the stiletto shoe on my cake *sulks*. Other than that I am one happy and satisfied little customer.
I’ve included a few snapshots of the night…I have so many pictures, but sadly I can’t put ALL of them here. I’ve included only a few with some of my friendsters. Thanx again!
Some times it makes me sad to have to admit that people I used to call friends have now become mere acquaintances, if that. These are people I cared about, helped and believed to care about me. It’s a sad day when you have to admit that you were mistaken…that they were not your friends afterall…they never really cared. Even though in your case I’ve been at this point before, this week I had to finally accept that you were never a friend. You’ve been an emotional parasite, an emotional and psychological abuser and now you are no longer part of my life.
I’m tired of being called all kinds of names when the opinion you asked me to give is not what you wanted to hear. I’m tired of being insulted and called names because I refuse to engage in an argument with you. I’m tired of you discussing me behind my back and calling me names. I’m tired of caring about you and having that thrown back in my face.
I’d like to say that when I did consider you a friend the relationship was good…but the sad part is…it never was. It was always fundamentally flawed…I just didn’t realise it. Am I innocent in all of this. No. I’ve had my fair share of flinging insults at times. But I’m over the hurt…I can’t do it any more.Your latest tirade was unnecessary and extremely hurtful and brought me to this decision. It’s done, it’s over…no more.
I hope you manage to sort through your issues. I hope you find happiness. I hope you have friends that can help you though this…but I’m sorry, it’s not going to be me, 7 years is quite enough.